Ever since my childhood, I had this in my conscience that Ibadah done during sadness/wanting something is some kind of business/trade. Allah created humans with own hands, this honour is huge enough to worship him because that honour is not bestowed upon any other creation. That is unconditional love and Ibadah. And he is worthy of worship.
Every Prophet (pbut), Sahaba (r.a) and Auliya Allah (rm) went through tests a person can’t even imagine, and their ranks are being raised to such levels a person can’t even perceive.
Sometimes you remain quiet for years, just thinking you should take a walk solemnly and refrain from anymore confusion involving someone else’s Izzah (honour). BUT when you see the level of disdain for you on display you simply can’t help but speak up. Through out your entire life most of your Ibadahs were directed in pleasing ALLAH alone. It is just that you to have falter in your expression and not being able to pull up best words and other party uses that opportunity to the best of their ability to nail you down. At this very moments you look towards heavens and think through out your entire life you even guarded your lips let alone other things, yet your words get cherry-picked and your existence gets insulted and thrown into the dustbin of “desires”. Why people can’t be proper, rather then running descriptions, additions and extrapolations. Why beating around bushes?
Misuse of Destiny:
In remote region in India a woman gets married to a dog ?
Without partial free-will we wouldn’t be here, so stop throwing everything on Loh-e-mahfooz. Everything is written down in Loh-e-mahfooz because it is known to Allah Ta’ala. Without partial free-will we would have been called Angels NOT Humans.
Marriage is shaped by the will of man/woman, so takes part in the first part of destiny. If marriage were a predestined absolute, no choices and no advises would be effective on it. But if we pay attention to the ahadith, we see that Prophet Mohammed (صلى الله عليه وسلم – Sallallaho Alaihi Wa’sallam) gave many advises about marriage. For a Muslim, this point is a clue proving that marriage is a decision shaped with our free will.
We clearly understand from Hadith that we choose our spouse with our free-will. If marriage were a predestined absolute, the Blessed Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) wouldn’t give any advises about it.
Sometimes Allah shows reality of this world in very strange manner, that is the reason why it is called Dunya.